Dear future husband,

If there's one piece of advice I'd give you, it would be this: don't be in a rush to find me. Yes, I too am very eager and excited to meet you, but I believe God has things for us to work out in our own lives before He brings us together.

Before we can be good together, we have to be good with God and God alone. Him alone should be enough for us, enough for our heart, spirit, and soul. We must not long or thirst for anything other than Jesus. What I want for both of us is for us to enter a level of intimacy with our beloved Jesus that no matter who or what comes into our lives, it will never take the place of Him. I don't want to complete you. I want God to complete you. I want God to fulfil you and validate you. I cannot do that for you, and I don't expect you to do it for me either. We will have our roles to play for each other, but validating each other is not one of them. That is a space only the Holy Spirit can fill. So let Him fill it.

I want you to know that I hope and pray every day that you seek Him above all else. I pray that you look to God for strength to overcome the struggles you go through, and that you turn to Him and never from Him. I fervently pray that the Holy Spirit mold you into the man of God that He desires you to be. I also pray all the time that I will be able to give you the things you need and love you in a way you will feel it and know it with complete confidence.

I do not know who you are yet, or where you are, or when we will be brought together, but I am not worried. I trust that whoever you are and wherever you are, God will bring us into each others lives in His perfect timing. Seek Him, and love Him. I will do the same. And I believe that when God sees we are good and ready, He will allow us to meet.

With loving affection,
Your future wife

Choose happiness for yourself.

My mom’s best friend was over and I hadn’t seen her in months. So, she sees me, we hug, and then she compliments my new hair colour but then she says to me “there’s something different about your face” and I said “um, well… I’m much happier than I ever was” and she starts smiling that suspicious smile and continues on “you’re glowing! There must be something making you this happy…” and I responded “well, yeah, actually, God is” and yet I know what she was thinking and then she confirmed my thoughts by asking me who the guy is. I told her there is no guy. That I have changed a lot over the past several months and I am simply happy, in and of myself (with the relentless help of God). And she gave me a look like she knew better and I reassured her that God is the only (and best) man in my life. She didn’t believe me.

And this just struck me. Because it goes to show what the world has conditioned people to believe. The world sends out the message “if you are happy, then there MUST be a guy or girl in your life who is causing it.” When really, that isn’t always true, and honestly I don’t think it should be that way at all.
Happiness comes from within, it comes from yourself. It is a conscious decision you make for yourself. And if you’re unhappy, and you get a boyfriend/girlfriend, then become happy because of them… then every time they let you down, or hurt you, or don’t live up to your expectation, or are disappointed in you…. you wont be able to stand on your own because they are the source of your joy, and they are no longer giving you joy.

It is so important to build up your own joy, your own reasons to be happy. Why would you settle for letting someone else make you happy when you can be happy on your own with or without a significant other in your life?

Don’t let yourself be complete by another person. That is selling yourself short. Plus, it’s unfair to give such a huge responsibility to the other person, as if they could find any way to make you happy when you’re not.